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In today's world, we often find ourselves judged and evaluated based on our external appearance rather than our internal qualities. We're bombarded with media messages that promote a certain standard of beauty, and we're led to believe that unless we fit that standard, we're not good enough.

But what about the qualities that truly matter? What about our hearts, our kindness, and our compassion? Are they not worth as much as our physical appearance?

As someone who has been judged based on their physical appearance, I can relate to these questions. My arms are big, and I've often been told that I look intimidating or unapproachable because of my size. But what these people fail to see is the size of my heart. My big arms may look tough, but they're also capable of holding and comforting those in need. My big arms have lifted up my loved ones when they were down and have given them strength and support when they needed it most.

It's unfortunate that we live in a world where physical appearance often takes precedence over inner qualities. It's easy to be lured into thinking that beauty is everything, that we need to be thin, muscular, or flawless to be accepted and valued. But the truth is that beauty fades, and what remains are the qualities that make us who we are.

I'm not saying that physical appearance doesn't matter at all, but it's important to put things into perspective.

Yes, taking care of our bodies is essential for our health and well-being, but we should also prioritize taking care of our hearts and souls. We should strive to be kind, compassionate, and empathetic, to spread love and positivity wherever we go.

It's also important to recognize that not everyone will appreciate or value us for who we are. Some people will judge us based on our external appearance, and that's okay. It's not our job to please everyone or to conform to their expectations. Instead, we should focus on surrounding ourselves with people who appreciate and value us for who we are, people who see beyond our physical appearance recognise the beauty of our hearts.

That's not to say that we should only surround ourselves with people who agree with us or who are just like us.

Diversity is important, and we can learn a lot from people who have different perspectives and life experiences. But we should also be aware of toxic people who bring us down, who judge us or put us down, and who don't appreciate us for who we are.

In conclusion, my big arms and my big heart are both important to me. They represent who I am and what I stand for, and I refuse to let anyone judge me based on my physical appearance alone. I will continue to prioritize taking care of my heart and soul, to spread kindness and love, and to surround myself with people who appreciate and value me for who I am. And I encourage you to do the same. Remember, beauty is not just skin deep. It's the qualities that make us who we are that truly matter.

"Her big heart was as wide open as the horizon, welcoming all who came her way."

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